“What is off-limits; however, is embarrassing men. Exposing men who are abusive, incompetent or overpaid violates the rules. Men will not be humiliated. They will not be rejected. Their positions in the spotlight will not be threatened.”

Great piece, and this part resonated with me. Not only am I dealing with an abusive coworker whose arrogance and sexism go hand-in-hand — and when he’s embarrassed, beware his rage, but also I’m reminded that the greatest sin to both my ex-abuser and his enablers was that I let people know how he treated me. Apparently, I should have suffered in silence…and I did, for quite a while. Abuse is tolerable, excusable… “ruining a reputation” by speaking up or seeking help apparently is not.