…sexy and hot must be put in its proper place. It’s fun to be sexy and to look pretty sometimes, but these qualities actually have no direct affect on your quality of life, and therefore, they are frivolous, superficial pursuits that will never truly fulfill and often distract from your true purpose.
I’ll have to disagree with you, for a couple of reasons. First, because of the societal emphasis on looks and appearance, especially for women, there’s a lot more benefits to being attractive than “being able to get a man.” (And there are many more things important than that, too.) Like, say, a promotion.
As I said in my piece, I did discover my confidence through burlesque. In that sense, focusing on my appearance is hardly frivolous or superficial, and I would argue that channeling my confidence into the physical realm through performance is a cathartic act that improves my quality of life. Beauty is a double-edged sword — it’s something we can construct that can both benefit us and make us miserable.