How can you speak your truth if you are not allowed to use your own experience and thoughts without being accused of generalisations? How can you not offend someone who already carries enormous rage within? How can you stay clear and…
I know you won't read this, but...This resonates with me strongly. Recently, I have felt as though my experience is constantly up for debate. As you say, I cannot write my own truth without someone swooping in to tell me I'm wrong. I recently shared my own weight struggles in the context of how it is now inappropriate to even discuss weight loss because it's "offensive" to fat people. Like you, I've been accusing of fat-shaming simply by acknowledging that yes, some people want to lose weight and that is their right.
Ironically, I am, apparently, the type of "SJW" who is so sensitive and silly that my ideas about equality and justice are foolish. Yet when I write about toxic femininity or cancel culture or heck, even dare to suggest that [insert popular celebrity here] is not actually trash, I get criticism accusing me of being a sell-out, apologist, or outright N*zi... the list goes on.
I can't win.
As writers, we hold a unique position. We can express our truth more vividly and meaningfully than many can. And that makes people uncomfortable. It's especially bad for women or genderqueer writers, because people automatically assume that our perspectives are flawed. I've shared my experiences about weight loss, abuse, catcalling, body dysmorphic disorder, you name it, only to have readers come flying in to tell me it wasn't that serious, I don't have it that bad, etc.
Thank you for sharing this piece. I respect your weight-loss journey and your writing work, and I hope you know that you should be proud of both.