I couldn't agree more. At some point, I want to write about the weird subculture of dating coaches, many of whom heavily rely on this false dichotomy. It's not just people like Andrew Tate, either. I've met a woman who teaches men how to date, and she insists they reject any sort of femininity to "get the girl."
Thanks for adding the history of pink! That's a perfect example of how masculinity and femininity are socially constructed.