How awful. I wish I could say I’m surprised by this, but I too have been “joined” by countless men at cafés, bars, bus stations, you name it. And every time I relate these incidents to male friends or acquaintances, they say, “He was just trying to be friendly.” I say, “Then why didn’t he talk to any of the men sitting alone?” and they have nothing to say. Or worse, they ask, “Why didn’t you let him down easy?” I say, “We weren’t on a date, so why do I need to be so cautious about his feelings?” Besides, it’s not freakin’ hard to see when someone is enjoying their alone time, and it’s especially not hard to mind strangers’ personal space. Most people have no problem with it, but when it’s a single woman, suddenly any concept of personal bubble goes out the window.

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